Eulogy Example Phrases and Funeral Messages

When creating the body of the funeral speech, you’ll generally share information or anecdotes about the deceased that reflect on the positive aspects of their character. Sometimes crafting these words of sympathy can be difficult. There are resources that are dedicated to helping you create the most inspirational eulogy possible, but there are a few phrases below that you might use to make your job a little easier.

Help writing a funeral speech
Your funeral speech can be difficult to write. This phrasing might help you write your eulogy.

We’ve used the name ‘John Doe’ below, however you should, of course, use the name of the deceased. Use the first name only, where appropriate. In the event that the departed is a woman, be sure to change all relevant aspects to female terms (ie mother of, grandmother, wife, etc.). Similarly, you can replace specific skills or topics with those that are really relevant to the departed.

  • John Doe had many interests, but his home and family life always came first. He loved to travel, and had visited countries that most of us don’t even know how to pronounce! He was always curious about new cultures and ideas.
  • John was one of the least materialistic people I’ve ever met. He was always happy with what he already had, and knew it was right for him. The grass was always greenest on John’s side.
  • Despite his illness, John never complained about the discomfort he was in, a rare quality in anybody.
  • John Doe was intelligent and articulate; an interesting man to talk to, but more importantly, he was someone who would really listen. He could understand and appreciate your point of view, even if it was different than his own.
  • John was a funny man. He was witty and had a great sense of humor; there was nothing he loved more than a good joke or a funny story.
  • John Doe was very skilled with his hands; he knew so much about building and was always happy to help his family and friends with their household projects and repairs. It was never too much trouble.
  • John loved poetry/music, and we had great difficulty in choosing something appropriate that John Doe would have liked to have heard at his funeral. One of his favorites was the writer/singer __________, so I think John would have approved of the choice.
  • John was a good friend to many people and touched all of their lives in different ways.
  • John had strong morals and principles that he lived by, but he never judged others or pushed his beliefs on anyone.
  • John was a wonderful storyteller; he could recall the smallest details of a tale with great clarity and then weave them into the story, so you felt like you were actually there.
  • We all have many happy memories of John Doe and these we must hold dear in our hearts and cherish them, as he cherished us.
  • John chose his friends carefully; if you were lucky enough to be close to him, then you know his loyalty and honesty were two of his greatest strengths. You could always rely on John, and trust him with anything.
  • As a young man, John was an independent person who wanted to go his own way and do his own thing, he liked to earn what he had, and never took anything from anyone. He would work hard and was willing and able to succeed in whatever challenge he faced.
  • John was well-liked, popular and respected. I’d like to take this opportunity to give John’s friends a message of gratitude and appreciation from his family for their unconditional support and friendship over the years, especially in recent years.
  • John had always led a very active life. It was a life well spent and enjoyed, with many happy times. He enjoyed his life to the fullest, and made the most out of every moment.
Resources for memorial tributes
Resources are available to help you compose your memorial tribute


We hope these eulogy example phrases have helped you to write your funeral tribute. In addition to using the above phrases, and the information provided on this site, you’ll very likely need further guidance in preparing your memorial tribute. Please have a look at our resources section for other books and reference materials that will help you to create an inspirational eulogy.

Our most sincere condolences in these difficult times…

I’ve been asked to give a eulogy…should I accept?


Think carefully about giving a eulogy...its a big responsibility.
Think carefully about giving a eulogy…it’s an honor for you, but also a big responsibility.

The passing of a loved one can be a difficult and confusing time for the friends and family of the deceased. Preparations for a funeral service add to the stress of losing someone you care about. One of the most difficult aspects of the funeral service is the eulogy. If you’ve been asked to deliver the eulogy, it’s natural for your feelings to be mixed.

Being asked to give the funeral speech to pay tribute to someone’s life is a great honor, but it’s also a daunting challenge. You’ll need to channel your grief, memories and love for the deceased into words, and then deliver those messages to your fellow mourners in a way that comforts them, leaves them feeling closer to the departed and hopefully helps them to deal with their own grief. This is a tall order, but there was probably a good reason you were asked to speak at the eulogy: The other members of the departed’s friends and family consider you close enough to the deceased to write and deliver a truly inspirational eulogy.

Should I accept the challenge of speaking at a memorial service?

If you’ve been asked to give the eulogy, you’ll need to make a fast decision about accepting the responsibility. A funeral is not something that can be delayed, and should you refuse, you need to be sure the family has time to find someone else. If you do accept, it’s not something you can change your mind about, and back out of later. If you refuse to give the eulogy, you put additional stress on those organizing the services, which will reflect poorly on you. No one can force you to take on the task of speaking in the memorial service, but I would suggest that you do accept. This is an honor to you, as well as a chance for you to help the friends and family of the deceased find some comfort in a trying time. An exception to this might be if, unbeknownst to the family, you and the deceased had some sort of a falling out, and your feelings are so negative you feel you cannot do honor to their memory. In this case, you should probably consider not attending the funeral at all, and can kill two birds with one stone by claiming to be travelling or otherwise occupied during this time.

Should you accept, it’s important that you realize that it’s a responsibility that requires preparation, thought and practice. Fortunately, there are resources available for you to help you with this challenge, so you can create an inspirational eulogy that will bring come comfort to the bereaved during their time of grief. With the advice and resources provided here, I believe you’ll be able give a funeral tribute that will touch the hearts of the bereaved.